Take the leap.

This post I will reblog one of my earlier posts; ‘If you were going to die tomorrow, what would you do today?’ and add some new stuff at the end about taking the leap and speaking about ‘what ifs’.

‘This post is going to be one that, I’m sorry, is slightly philosophical… but also one of the most important things that I think I will ever write and I’m just gonna dive straight in; ask yourself, if you were going to die tomorrow, what would you do today? And by that, I don’t mean, not turn up to work.

What I do mean is, first of all, don’t go to bed mad with people you could make up with, they could be gone tomorrow… If there is anyone that you wouldn’t want to die without making up with, sort it out now. We don’t know what life is going to throw at us, we could all die tomorrow. You could literally walk out your front door, cross the road and get hit by a bus. I know that sounds dark and pessimistic but it’s true.

That friend who you argued with the other week and still haven’t made up with, that guy you used to be friends with, tried dating and now it’s weird, just sort it out. Talk to them, even just one conversation could make you feel so much better.

Which brings me to my second point, do not have bad blood. It is toxic and will seriously get you down and be a huge negative impact on your life. If you reconcile with those who you have bad blood with, discuss your problems and do not leave things without sorting them out, it will make you feel so much better. You may not even realise that it’s weighing you down but our lives are so busy and what we do is so time consuming, we rarely have time to think long and hard about what may be negatively impacting our lives and moods.

Even while saying this, I understand that there are some things that can’t be reconciled. If feel totally ok even though there are problems between you and someone and you would be totally ok without reconciling with them before you die, then fine. But I stand by what I said, bad blood is toxic and dealing with this will lift a weight you didn’t even know existed.

On a similar but slightly different point, if there is someone that you are in love with or even have feelings for, for the love of God literally just tell them! This links to another post I’m going to write about relationships so watch this space.

Then, if you love someone, tell them. I see so often that people say, ‘oh I have been in love with [insert name here followed by hopeless sigh] for [insert insanely long time]’. If you love someone, and you haven’t told them the most likely reason is that you’re scared of rejection. If they turn you down or say that they don’t reciprocate your feelings, then yeah, it’s going to be really rough for a while. But then at least you know! Not knowing and living in a constant stasis of limbo is going to be even more destroying than the pain of rejection. Then you can move on with your life, time heals all wounds, and you will be annoyed at yourself for waiting so long to address the problem! You will feel so much better, a weight will have been lifted that you didn’t even know that was there. For your own sakes, just do it!

Be happy, love life, spread the love and release the hate.’

Moving on to the new ideas, if you have an opportunity and you don’t take it, do you really want to live the rest of your life wondering what would have happened, what could have been, if you would have been so much happier or so much better off if you’d just taken that leap.

You’re scared that something’s not going to work out. But are you willing to not take the chance that you could miss out on something incredible, just on the off chance that it won’t? Really? If none of us ever took any leaps of faith then we would never accomplish anything, we would never get that new job, create that new friendship, find that new joy in life, we would never fall in love.

Are you willing to risk future happiness because you were too scared to take the chance. No, it might not work out. It might crash and burn. But it could be the best thing that’s ever happened to you.

You’re worried that you’ll regret it? Trust me when I say you will regret it more not taking the chance at all. Just go for it before the chance disappears and you’re left with the unknowing of what it could have been.

If you have unfinished business or there’s something in your life that you know be amazing and you don’t take the chance. That will eat away at you for the rest of your life, always in the back of your mind; what could have been.

You owe it to yourself to take the chance.

 

 

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‘So brown and so happy’ – my grans description of me travelling, May 2017

So after 3 countries, 13 flights, 19 airports, god knows how many beds/places I’ve fallen asleep, countless memories and laughter and just a few tears my travelling time came to an end. Today marks one month since my return to England and this post seems to be coming late but it took a lot of time everything sink in. This post is going to be relatively short but I just want to put an appreciation post out there about my experiences.

I know how ridiculously lucky I am. I know that I have had a once in a life time unbelievable experience. My heart is so full and I am so grateful for everything that I have done. I don’t want anyone to think for a second that I have taken all of this for granted. The experiences I’ve had have been absolutely incredible. They have changed my perspective on things and made me look at life differently. I can honestly say that I have returned from this trip a different person. I know that a cliché thing to say but seriously, it would be weird if all these crazy experiences, travelling alone, volunteering and meeting so many different amazing people hadn’t changed me! I am the happiest I’ve ever been. I have a clearer picture of what I want and what I want to achieve but I also have learnt to enjoy everything in the moment, not always being like, oh, I can’t wait for this part of my life to start. Of course, I still look forward to stuff and get excited about the future but definitely not overlook what’s going on around me now. I used to panic about absolutely everything but now, I’m a lot calmer and I deal with problems a lot better. I also like to believe I’ve become more compassionate and more understanding towards others and empathise with their problems more. But also I have learnt that it is ok to be selfish sometimes and to take time to look after myself, which was never really a priority for me before.

But I wouldn’t have been able to have any of these experiences or grow as a person at all if it weren’t for all of the incredible people that I met along the way. You made it what it was and, I want to thank each and every one of you. My heart is so full and I am so grateful. From my volunteering buddies who I got extremely close to even after a few days, I will never forget, to the guys I met in hostels all over Australia, to people I met on tours, trips, even the people who helped me when I was lost and didn’t even know their names. Thank you to all of you. There is so much love in this world and travellers share the most of it. Everyone wants to help each other, even though everyone’s in the same boat of poor-ness and worry. You guys are some of the best people I have ever met and the people who have the most love in their hearts. I love you all.

From Broome to Darwin, exploring the Northern Territory 

Picking up where I left off last week, and carrying on my Australian adventure; when my time in Perth was over I headed to Broome, which honestly, was great but so tiny. I only spent two nights there and that was enough. I did go to the world oldest open air cinema, something that I’d always wanted to do which was great. The building was still all original and it had the original style deckchairs and I watched ‘Beauty and the Beast’ under the stars. The town was cute, there and some shops and a few small independent art galleries in which the artists were still doing their work. I love exploring new artists and supporting them. And I saw the most incredible sunset. I was to see many sunsets and sunrises in my time travelling but honestly, this one was by far the best. The sky was perfectly clear and there were about five or six colours streaked across it, and then came my absolute favourite time of night, when you can still see part of the sunset on the horizon but the sky has also started to blacken and the stars have begun to come out. Honestly, beautiful. The friends I made there were the best. Took me under their wing the first hour I got there and essentially looked after me haha. Took me round places with them in their van, we had BBQs. Watched sunsets, had drinks and made friends for life. It was fantastic.After that I went to Darwin. Well, that was crazy. I of course, checked into the main party hostel and was so happy I did. Within 2 hours of landing, I was drunk of my ass with a group of crazy girls I’ve never met before and had the time of my life. They were mad and I had so much fun, spent a lot of money and got wasted. But the guys I met did this every night, and a lot of them were on working holiday visas. To me it looked like a working holiday visa was working shit jobs, for shit money, to spend it all on alcohol, to be hungover in bed that day, to go to back to work, to do it all again. I asked some of them how long they’d been in Australia and some answered about six months. I said, oh how much travelling have you done? They would reply none because they haven’t got any money, even though they work everyday. It all went on alcohol. $9 a shot. It made me see that I would probably never do a working holiday but I would just go back to do a tourist visa like I did before. I’m sure there are loads that love it and that a working holiday visa is something that would be perfect for them but just not for me. It seemed like it was not all the Australian traveller dream is cracked up to be!

Anyway, I had a great time in Darwin, there’s quite a bit to do! I went to the Litchfield National Park which was incredible, I love getting into nature and exploring new places so this was definitely one of my favourite things to do! I swam in waterfalls and explored new nature, I loved it. I went on a jumping crocodile tour and they leaped out of the water and wiggled like a salmon to get the meat which was awesome. I also swam with a crocodile which was absolutely terrifying but ya know, when in Rome! That was actually my attitude to pretty much everything that I saw the opportunity to do. If I was ever on the fence about doing something, I was like, when am I going to be here again and have this opportunity. Made me do things I’m not sure I’d have done otherwise!

Bit of a short one but next time will be the beginning of my East Coast adventure when my bestie came out to join me so watch this space!

 

 

More adventures, this time in Perth

So, I’ve been back from travelling for just over 2 weeks now, (crazy I know) and I thought it was high time that I did a blog post considering I’ve been highly neglecting it all throughout Australia…Firstly, I want to say how amazing this time has been, but you will know that if you have spoken to me at all or seen any of my many many many many many many Instagram/Facebook posts (sorry for the spam…). The first thing that people always ask me is; what was the best thing you did? I say it’s impossible to answer because basically everything I did was incredible. There was no, one thing that stood out from all the rest.

However, if we’re considering which cultural experience was best, obviously the culture difference between home and Australia was marginal compared to the difference between here and India and Thailand (but I’ve already covered my experiences there in previous posts). So culturally, it was those countries that were the better experience, however, I didn’t go to Australia for the culture, I went for the weather, the nature, the sights and the fun! But actually, every culture is at least a little bit different. The history obviously and the history of the aboriginals was super interesting and just even the ways that people from the UK and people from Australia behaved, although still both Western behaviour was sometimes quite different. One thing I did notice was that people were so much friendlier, everywhere, the bus drivers were helpful, the shop assistants and bar keeps served you with a smile; it was like they were actually happy to work! It was so refreshing and I absolutely loved it. I’m putting it down to the vitamin D from all the sun that they get but that’s just a theory! And also everyone in Australia seemed perfectly ok with using very strong language to talk to their mates… calling each other c*nts and such like… and they shorten everything. Literally everything that’s more than one syllable; it’s really quite amusing.

Anyway, I was lucky enough to explore lots of Australia. First I spent 3 weeks in Perth and the surrounding areas, staying with my godparents and them being my personal tour guides, which I am extremely grateful for! I was looked after in a sense which was very much welcomed after being essentially completely on my own in India and Thailand. It was great spending time with that part of my family that I hadn’t seen in about ten years. It was just like a little slice of home and after the hustle and bustle and stress and everything from India especially it was so nice to relax a bit. It was like a big sigh of relief when I stepped off the plane and didn’t feel on edge that I was going to be stared at for my clothing choices, speaking of which I had to make a quick trip to target to buy some more clothes because I only had one pair of shorts!

I had so many different and wonderful experiences when I was in Perth. As soon as my godfather collected me from the airport he took me to see some wild kangaroos which I got waaay too overexcited about! After that there was wineries and wine tasting, there were chocolate factories, there was camping, there were zoos, aquariums, lots of amazing food and drinks, there was sun, there was sunburn, there was beaches there was snorkelling, which by the way, is my new favourite thing I absolutely love it. I just kept thinking how lucky my godparents were that they were able to go to the beach whenever they wanted and do fun stuff there and water sports and diving etc. When we have a sunny day our options are pub or a walk… When I’d visited my first Australian beach, we had a shark warning and someone pulled a snake out of a rock, first and only wild snake that I was to see in Australia actually, all within the space of five minutes and it did kinda freak me out I must admit! I went swimming with dolphins too which had been on my bucket list since I was about ten! It was so incredible and when you put your head under the water you could hear them speaking to each other and the different noises they were making and I got so excited I accidentally inhaled a load of seawater into my snorkel…

I (obviously) think Perth is a lovely place but somewhere that you want to live and spend time properly, not to backpack. I still had an incredible time but I think that was because I had my godparents showing me round and they had a car so they could take me to places that were a little bit further out. I still felt at this point that I hadn’t done proper ‘backpacking’ yet which was why I was sooo super excited for the next part of my adventure which would be hostels and no hand holding! I’m going to leave you with this for now before I bore you all to death but my next post will be up shortly about the next part of my time in Aus! Until then, adventurers!